Aggression in the child. How to negotiate with a small brawler?
What is aggression?
Aggression is an integral form of behavior,which is more or less inherent in every person. It is one of the ways of self-defense. If an adult is able to control his outbursts of anger, then the child has no such skill. So how do you come to an agreement with a little brawler? All parents for certain at least once saw how their child squeals, rests, shouts ... At such moments you feel especially helpless. What are these "buy, buy!" Only in the stores! And the complaints of teachers about the pugnacity of your child? We do not think it's worth talking about this in detail. It is better to try to learn how to respond to such attacks of the beloved baby.
How to be?
First you need to learn how to controlown emotions. Believe that the aggression of a child is natural. It is impossible to control or regulate it. Also, you can not put a permanent ban on the child to express his anger, for example, "Do not shout!", "Do not make noise!", "Do not stamp!". Punish for this, too, should not be, because then the child will be afraid to express their emotions. This can lead to the fact that he will hide from you his true experiences. Constant bans can make a child "weakling", who can not rebuff in the right situation. But without attention such behavior of his offspring, too, can not be left. Before carrying out punitive measures, it is necessary to understand the "where the legs grow", because of what your beloved son or daughter so often began to express their discontent with such behavior as aggression. The child has many reasons for this. First, look for the problem in yourself.
Lack of attention
Mom and Dad are the most important and important people in the life of a baby. And when the childhe constantly hears from his beloved parents: "I now have no time, play alone" - he begins to think that they do not need them. The kid becomes hurt because of the fact that Mom and Dad, as it seems to him, stopped loving him. And he does what he can: shouts, beats his fists, throws toys. He needs attention. The child ceases to frighten punishment, as the principle "if I scream, the attention to me" works. This situation often leads to the fact that there is aggression in the child.
What to do?
The answer is ridiculously simple: pay attention to your little brawler. Sometimes you need to redouble your strength. Despite the busyness, fatigue, try to talk with the baby, answer all his questions, be sure to caress. Such tender feelings very much soothe the overactive children. Love your child and often show how much you love him.
Passive aggression in the child
If suddenly your baby has behaved badly for nothing, then this is a sign of a manifestation of passive aggression. It is difficult to fight with it, because often the child himself does not understand the reason for such behavior.
Speech aggression in the child
This kind of aggression is offensive,rude and offensive communication. There are several ways in which you can try to overcome this manifestation. The first and most common is direct condemnation. The second can be called ignoring the child's behavior. Third - the method of projecting good qualities of the baby. For example: "I thought you were so obedient, but, it turns out, you behave very badly." Here are some examples of how parents should behave when they encounter such a concept as aggression in a child.